Women who are assertive, who take leadership, who dare to give their opinion, are often seen as bitches, man-wives, or worse. Men who do the same, on the other hand, are praised, respected, or even admired. How come? Why is there such a double standard for men and women? The answer lies in our evolution. Man is still a primal human in thought and action, even though we live in a modern and industrialized world. Our subconscious, which largely determines what we do and what we think, is still attuned to prehistoric times. Our main goal is still to survive and reproduce. Our entire being is still at the service of this. This means that when we look at each other, survival and reproduction are the first things our subconscious takes into account. In terms of men and women, this means that we mainly look at men’s ability to protect the group. The man must be able to quickly switch to his killer instinct in the event of danger. His entire body must be able to be ready for a fight very quickly. This is different with a woman. As a woman, you must first get the children to safety and keep them calm when the male fends off the enemy. And if your children do not behave, you must be patient and not turn to aggression too quickly because this can be dangerous for the child. Women should not be so quick to get the red haze before their eyes, but should be able to keep their composure. They need to gain a better overview of the situation and look for the different possible solutions and weigh them against each other, with aggression being a last resort. We no longer live in prehistoric times, but instinctively we still look at men and women in the same different way: aggression in men is seen as a good thing, aggression in women is seen as a bad thing. Men and women are therefore not equal. Natural selection and especially sexual selection ensured that men and women developed and evolved side by side and complementarily, with the main goal of surviving together and having and raising children together. This means that the man and woman each play with a separate deck of cards. In our current time and after centuries of oppression of women, this means that the rules of the game are tailored to the cards men play with. For centuries, women were not allowed to participate in decision-making, running businesses and even sports were prohibited. So every company, every sport we know is completely made according to the cards of men. A woman in a predominantly male company is therefore a bird to the cat because the corporate culture sees dominance, even aggression, as something positive. But if a woman shows those qualities, our instincts will make us dislike that woman. Is this fair, no of course not, but nature is not fair. Is this good for us as humanity? No, not, because that way we miss half our potential. In recent years we have tried to reinvent the game in all kinds of ways so that we can once again use the talents of men and women in our society. To the frustration of many men in particular, the quota was created for this purpose, so that typical male bastions can also become feminized at the top. It is a shame that we need such an artifice, but in the long term, being able to use the talents of men and women will be an added value for our society.
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